Courtly Love in the Middle Ages: Definition, Characteristics & Rules

Courtly Love in the Middle Ages: Definition, Characteristics & Rules
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  • 0:01 Love Outside of Marriage
  • 1:39 Origins & Examples
  • 3:23 Rules of Courtly Love
  • 4:40 Courtly Love in Literature
  • 5:27 Lesson Summary
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Instructor: Diedra Taylor

Diedra has taught college English and worked as a university writing center consultant. She has a master's degree in English.

Explore this lesson on courtly love, an essential concept to understanding relationships between men and women in medieval literature. Learn the definition of courtly love, its connection with chivalry, the rules of courtly love, and discover examples of works that feature courtly love from the Middle Ages.

Love Outside of Marriage

Courtly love, also called refined love, is a confusing notion for some modern readers to understand. For most of us, love is tied up with romance and attraction. It is often publicly announced with a marriage or other public arrangement. After all, you want the person you marry to love you, right?

Courtly love, on the other hand, had nothing to do with marriage. In fact, most accounts state that it wasn't possible to experience courtly love with your spouse. This does not mean married people were excluded from courtly love; they just experienced it with someone 'outside' their marriage. The concept seems to have gotten its start in medieval literature, but it eventually caught on in the royal courts.

Here's the part that gets confusing for modern readers: courtly love was all about romance (the cheesier the better), but sexual contact typically had nothing to do with it. Most of us consider sexual acts to be something shared between lovers. But at medieval court, the term 'lover' referred to the person with whom someone danced, giggled, and held hands; procreation was a spousal duty. To do otherwise was to break the rules of etiquette. However, we all know that rules wouldn't be in place unless people were breaking them.

This painting of Tristan and Isolde portrays the wooing of courtly love.
Painting of Tristan and Isolde

In the Middle Ages, why did love and marriage have nothing to do with each other? At the time, noble marriages were often arranged by the parents in order to increase the status and wealth of each family. They were about political and financial gain, rather than how the couple felt about each other. Once a strategic marriage was arranged and consummated, courtly love brought romance into the courts and people's lives without vows of fidelity being broken.

Origins and Examples

Courtly love was strongly related to chivalry (the practice of being a loyal and gentlemanly knight) and what would later be known as the Code of Chivalry. There was no official 'code' in medieval times; it was a term that was coined in later years to describe the common behavioral attributes that proper knights possessed not only on the fields of battle, but in court, too. Nowadays, the term is primarily used to describe the ways knights were expected to behave towards ladies of nobility; they did not apply to peasant women.

The conventions of courtly love were often passed on in poetic narratives told by troubadours. Troubadours were traveling poets, but not like minstrels or bards. They would often stay in one place for longer periods of time, entertaining the nobility in an area under the patronage of a wealthy member of the aristocracy. The troubadour (like a popular singer going on tour) would visit at various courts and tell or sing his romantic poetry, in which the woman was elevated to a status that allowed her to raise up a man and make him a better person.

Medieval literature includes several examples of courtly love. Sir Lancelot expresses this kind of love for Lady Guinevere in Arthurian legend, though he breaks the rules and takes Guinevere for his own. In Geoffrey Chaucer's The Knight's Tale, this type of love is depicted. Many poets also dedicated their writing to noble ladies in acts of courtly love, such as Edmund Spenser's The Faerie Queene, which he dedicated to Queen Elizabeth I. The poem depicts the Redcrosse knight's courtly love for the Lady Una. He protects her and professes to love her, while always behaving with the most chivalrous propriety.

Rules of Courtly Love

A chaplain by the name of Andreas Capellanus wrote a set of rules in the 12th century called The Art of Courtly Love. Scholars previously considered his work to be a treatise, but it has since been recognized by others as a satire that made fun of the acts and literature of courtly love. Some still debate the sincerity of the piece, but even those who acknowledge its satirical tone acknowledge it was a work to describe common customs of the times.

The work is large and can be divided into three units or books. The following rules are found in Book Two, or How Love May be Retained.

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