Dealing With Low Self-Esteem

Instructor: Elisha Madison

Elisha is a writer, editor, and aspiring novelist. She has a Master's degree in Ancient Celtic History & Mythology and another Masters in Museum Studies.

Self-esteem is a struggle for kids and adults alike. This lesson includes ways to improve low self-esteem and deal with everyday life when you struggle with low confidence.

Low Self-Esteem

How many of us look in the mirror and struggle with what we see? Or perhaps you struggle with math in school, so you think there is something wrong with you that makes you unlikable. Feeling like these challenges or obstacles make you inferior to others is low self-esteem, which means there is nothing wrong with you. It is purely how you feel about yourself. However, this is one of the hardest issues to overcome. We all deal with people in our lives that make us feel lesser, and we struggle with our own self-worth. So, how do you change it? Although it is not as simple as just being confident, there are some steps you can take to improve your self-esteem.

What Contributes to Low Self-Esteem?

You can increase your self esteem

First, you need to determine what might be causing your self-esteem issues. There can be several things:

  • Issues with parents or guardians - A common reason for low self-esteem is troubles with parents or guardians. If your parents struggle with showing approval, are having issues in their own lives that keep them preoccupied, or tend to ignore or not get involved with your life, this may contribute to low self-esteem.
  • Bullying behavior - Bullying behavior in your school or at home can cause low self-esteem as well, especially if your support structure at home is too controlling or uninvolved.
  • Learning disabilities - If you struggle with learning in any way and do not have the support you need to cope with these issues, it can make you feel bad about yourself. Even though others are struggling too, it is hard to see because you are dealing with trying to stay afloat at school or work.
  • Traumatic events and abuse - Any kind of abuse or scary event can also affect self-esteem. It makes many people feel very low because if someone was willing to treat them so badly, they may feel that they deserve that treatment. And when traumatic events happen, people may blame themselves when it was not their fault at all.
  • Religion - Some religions encourage certain people to be submissive and subservient to others. This can create an issue with self-esteem, though not always.

Although knowing the underlying cause(s) may not make you feel better, it can be a step in the right direction. Once you know what is causing the issue, it is easier to understand it is not about you. It is also important to note that you may not realize what caused your low self-esteem, or there may be multiple causes. Just remember you are not the problem; however, you are the solution.

Improving Self-Esteem

So where to begin? Although all of the steps can be started at once, it is always good to start with something you love.

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