Clio has taught education courses at the college level and has a Ph.D. in curriculum and instruction.
Parental Resources for Students with Emotional Impairments
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ShowRachel is a special educator who works with students with emotional impairments in a self-contained setting, where they learn and grow separately from their typically developing peers.
For the last few years, Rachel has been focusing on improving her ability to meet her students' academic, social, and emotional needs. She feels good about her professional capacities in these realms.
However, now Rachel is starting to notice that her students' parents are often floundering. It can be really challenging to parent a child with emotional impairments. Behaviors can be difficult, it is common to feel guilty, worried, and even angry, and many parents might feel very stressed about their children's futures.
Rachel can see that to help her students continue to grow, she also needs to help their parents. She starts learning more about the different resources available for parents of students with emotional impairments.
First of all, Rachel knows that many of her students have very difficult behaviors. They might engage in frequent tantrums, tend toward oppositional behavior, and even get aggressive and violent toward themselves and others. The following suggestions can be very helpful to parents when it comes to these behaviors:
- Remain as consistent as possible in your response to problem behaviors. Explain to children what is expected of them, and follow through with predetermined consequences when they act out.
- When possible, name and address the feeling behind a behavior. Tell a child, 'You must be very angry right now' to teach them, gradually, to use words, rather than feelings to express their behaviors.
- If you feel like you might get violent, take a break. Make sure your child is safe, and leave them alone in a room while you calm yourself down.
- Use positive reinforcement systems like behavior charts and simple rewards to encourage the behaviors you do want to see.
- Try to prevent difficult behaviors before they occur by avoiding triggers such as overstimulation, hunger, and fatigue when possible.
- Remain in consistent communication with your child's teacher, therapists, and other support providers about the behaviors that are concerning you.
- Make sure your child knows that you love him, even when you are angry and frustrated about his behavior.
Some of the parents of Rachel's students have told her that they are also struggling to communicate with their children. This can be for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, emotional impairments are comorbid with language delays and difficulties. Other times, students with emotional impairments may shut down or seem unwilling to listen to their parents. Rachel recommends the following strategies:
- Try talking to children during calm times, rather than in the midst of a tantrum or major conflict.
- Figure out what times of day work best for communication, and capitalize on these times.
- Make sure that at least half of your communications with your child are positive or about topics other than problems you are having with your child.
- Don't be ashamed to get help! Teachers, doctors, and therapists can often be helpful in sitting with you while you talk to your child and helping break out of a destructive communication pattern.
- Ask your child for input into how she would like to see your communication unfold.
- Be open to listening; if your child approaches you to talk, it is time to put your phone down, make eye contact, and model the kind of listening you hope to see.
Finally, Rachel reminds her parents that they have a challenging task and it is important for them to take good care of themselves if they are to continue caring for their children.
Rachel encourages all of the parents in her class to get personal emotional support of their own. This might mean:
- Finding a really good babysitter once a month to go out on a date night.
- Attending support groups or talking online with other parents of children with similar struggles.
- Exercising, sleeping, and eating healthy whenever possible.
- Recognizing personal triggers and frustration points, and finding strategies to cool down, like yoga, talking with friends, meeting with a therapist, or even just spending a little time alone.
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